There's a reason why we're called the fairer sex...

I recently read "A Thousand splendid suns" by Khaled Hosseini. Its a book which beautifully tells us about the sacrifices that a woman makes, the ultimate earthly satisfaction that she feels on becoming a mother...and a thousand other intense emotions that she feels... The fact that a man has written it makes it all the more beautiful...

  Books like these and the things i see in real life makes me wonder as to how a woman can endure so much?? Men in general believe they are superior in a marriage and why not? coz one blow from him sends the woman down to his feet! Little does he know that he's becoming tinier and tinier in the eyes of both God and his kids.
      
Little boys grow up, believing strongly that the kitchen is not their area..so they grow up to be husbands who expect hot dishes to be served, his plates to be cleaned, clothes to be washed, never worrying about how one person could do this for everyone in the house..I confess that i didn't worry too...but now i do, coz i know that some day i'll be in the same boat as my mother and i regret that all these years i left her alone to clean up after me..to cook for me...

When a man falls in love, 99% of the time he falls for her beauty. Ever heard of an ugly cindrella? No wonder his eyes wander soon after the marriage. I've seen more than one married men who desperately try to impress other women, sometimes half their age!!! Their wives can only look on, while the drama unfolds! It makes me puke!!!!

When a man marries, i guess he expects a machine to please him...I used the word "machine" coz he never seems to notice that she's human. The food is good or bad according to his mood, worse, he never notices if something special is made. Even when its her birthday there's no riddance to the chores. And the worst situation ever...even when a row is raw and fresh, he expects to have a gala time on bed, never caring to settle the matter first. Am not saying that only men go astray, women do too. But if a woman tilts towards another man, most of the time the reason is emotional rather than physical, not that the act is justified in either cases.

 In hosseini's book, theres a scene where the protagonist has to deliver a a baby that she's conceived from a man she dislikes. Though she had contemplated killing the baby she finally decides against it as it was no fault of the baby's. While she screams in pain, she hears from the doctor that there's no anesthesia in the hospital and a caesarian is necessary ( the story is based in Afghanistan) And then the protagonist replies," THEN CUT ME OPEN AND GIVE ME MY BABY!!!"  Now that was one scene that shook me from inside!
Can a man comprehend  the depth of  such intense emotions?

Every time i read or see the plight of married women, the notion of tying the knot seems scarier. Though the idea of having a life partner,honeymooning, and the domain of motherhood tempts me royally, the underlying hard truths scare me. What if i don't feel like respecting Him? I certainly do not wanna wake up after years of serving him and wonder if i really have a place in his heart.

                                    Blimey! now i know why its called "tying the knot"!!! haha!!

Well, jokes apart, here goes the direct  "dil se " part...When the knot is tied around my neck, i hope my man is someone who has the heart to shoulder responsibilities. Someone who wouldn't think he'll lose his manliness if he enters the kitchen or cleans the baby's poopy. Yes i know that a man should be given his position in a family and i'm ready to do the chores, look after my babies and earn too. But am human...all that i'd want would be a little help, kind words, gestures of affection (and not just s#x!!!!) and true companionship...And if i ever have a son, i'll make sure he isn't alienated from housechores.

Geezz...!! I am saying all this, but The great man up there alone knows whats in store for me..but because He's incharge of my future, i know that in the end i'll be okay...:)